Comments on: AFTER IT’S OVER, WHAT WILL YOU WISH YOU’D DONE?

By: A Y

A Y — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 08:25:07 +0000

Thanks for writing this. It spoke deep down.

I did all I could, and was told I worked too hard… but failed.

It does feel like failure… and there is self-reproach…

But at least today I know someone understands…

So, for today at least… that’s all I need.

Thank you.

By: irongrip

irongrip — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 13:00:32 +0000

if my mind was contaminated, I just counldn’t be patient and be calm and make thorough analysis of myself and find my way out.

By: Robbie

Robbie — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 10:36:04 +0000

Anca’s replies always make my day.

Comedy gold

By: john w.

john w. — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 08:23:17 +0000

“Should have gone to Specsavers.”

By: hello

hello — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 15:22:06 +0000

Mainly that is just being scared of rejection.
I don’t really think there is just one answer about sacrifices or choices we make, there will always be small bitterness and “if only..” aftertaste when gaining success at work or in family life without fulfillment of both.

By: Rob Mortimer

Rob Mortimer — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 10:06:13 +0000

Combine this with Alex Bogusky’s post on defining success and you have what should be a blueprint for being happy and fulfilled in your work.

By: dave

dave — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 07:56:54 +0000

Nic,
I probably had a different ‘friends and family’ in mind than you.
I was thinking of younger guys starting out, so: Mum and Dad, Uncles and Aunts, and your mates.
But it still applies.
You have to ask yourself about everything in your life (work in this case): after it’s all over what will I wish I’d done.
I ask myself that about work.
But I also asked myself that about my children when they were young; when they’ve grown up and left home: what will I wish I’d done.
And about my parents when they were alive.
You have to come up with your own answer, but you do have to ask yourself that question before it’s too late.
I’m not making a rule about how to live, just saying make sure you’re perfectly aware of the choices you’re making.
And I don’t think that’s at all inconsistent with the benefits of extra-curricular activities.
Click here for instance:
http://community.brandrepublic.com/blogs/dtb/default.aspx

By: Riki

Riki — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 06:38:37 +0000

on losing. Serbs have an expression: “everything you really really really lose in your life is your hair and teeth”.

By: Nic Hodges

Nic Hodges — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 03:33:13 +0000

“Because when our friends and family say we’re working too hard, that’s when we know we’re working at just about the right level.”

Dave I really love the blog. I’ve found a hell of a lot of inspiration and guidance in it, all in your brilliant writing style.

But that line about working too hard is probably the most disagreeable thing I’ve read here. Maybe it’s because, from the title of the post, I thought this was going to be about stepping outside your job and doing the extracurricular things in your life.

Life and work is a balancing act. And when you finally start doing amazing work, and winning all the awards, and your family has fallen apart and your friends hardly know you, you’ll just have a different set of “coulda, shoulda, woulda”.

By: Dave Trott

Dave Trott — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 22:34:05 +0000

Ben,
I absolutely agree, it’s the same question with every aspect of our life.
And it will be the same question on our deathbed.